Muddied Masculinity

I had a disagreement with a friend recently.  We were discussing the Boy Scouts dropping the “Boy” from the organizations name and starting to accept girls and women.  I made the comment that the Boy Scouts was a traditionally masculine organization for boys and men to engage in masculine activities, and my friend responded that she did not think camping, hiking, or outdoor activities in general were “masculine”.

There’s a problem in our culture where it seems like masculinity is being erased entirely.  I’m not concerned about the Scouts, but about how it appears that anything that used to be a masculine activity is suddenly “not masculine” just because a few women started doing it.

I’m going to disagree.  When women engage in those activities, they are being more masculine.  That’s been a significant part of feminism: allowing women to be the person that they really are, even if it isn’t a traditionally feminine delicate flower.  Where I take issue is that doesn’t mean the activities they are engaging in are suddenly “gender neutral”, now.  It’s women who are opting to engage in a moderately masculine activity.

I’m having a similar problem when I say “I see your point about ‘toxic-masculinity’, but what does non-toxic masculinity look like?”  Mr. Rogers is usually the man named most often, but trying to describe what makes him masculine (as opposed to simply non-toxic) is sometimes difficult.  The other men are often described as nurturing and supportive, but if you run a search for “feminine characteristics” those are synonyms for half the traits listed.

I support people being who they are, and I don’t want to force anyone into a box, but I also don’t want to lose all definition for what words mean.  Sometimes it feels like masculinity itself is being erased from our culture.   If “masculine” or “feminine” mean nothing, then there’s no gender left to study.

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The Importance of Memory

One of the more obscure problems I realized we have in our modern culture is the disdain for memory.  I shared that perspective until I gave it more than a cursory thought, so I wanted to touch on it some here.

This disdain for memory comes from our schools, where people are taught not to memorize things.  There is a tiny grain of truth that things which are not well learned will not be remembered, and Rote memorization is the main memorization method used (repeat it until it sticks – so you can recite it for the test then forget it forever).  But that is not the only memory technique that matters, and I’m speaking about full memory, not just simple memorization.

Memory, as the ancients knew it, was absolutely essential to maintaining the ancient oral traditions, because without it the epics would disappear into obscurity (as most of them have).  After the invention of writing, Socrates had some stern words about the invention:

“For this invention will produce forgetfulness in the minds of those who learn to use it, because they will not practice their memory. Their trust in writing, produced by external characters which are no part of themselves, will discourage the use of their own memory within them. You have invented an elixir not of memory, but of reminding; and you offer your pupils the appearance of wisdom, not true wisdom, for they will read many things without instruction and will therefore seem to know many things, when they are for the most part ignorant and hard to get along with, since they are not wise, but only appear wise.”

This is similar to the problem that we have today, where nobody actually knows much of anything, but instead goes and “looks it up” whenever they need it.  The illusion of knowledge is strong, and the belief that the information will be there when they go to look for it means that nobody is actually remembering the things that they “learn” anymore.

I have heard some people argue that the ubiquity of access to information eliminates the need for memory, but I’m going to argue that is the furthest thing from the truth.  In addition to having access to information, we now also need to be able to remember enormous amounts of information simultaneously to compare it.  It is easy to look up a simple fact, but comparing two simple ideas is nearly impossible for a person who can’t recall them both simultaneously without extensive references.  This process makes it very easy for people to hold self-contradictory beliefs that they are never able to examine.

Then there’s the problem that, often, our records disappear or break.  This is more true with digital information than books, but there is a dire misunderstanding that computerized records last forever, even in the face of obvious examples to the contrary.  Nearly everyone in the United States knows what the result of a “hard drive crash” is.  Without actively preserving the information, digital records quickly become inaccessible.  The Viking spacecraft sent a wealth of data from Mars to Earth over a long period of time, but the computers required to access it are so archaic that the valuable information may be lost to future generations.  That mission wasn’t even so very long ago – it ran from the 70’s into the 80’s.

All of that is before we consider malicious intent editing public records to literally change the public’s mind.  This year, there are people who cannot remember what happened in the 2016 election and primaries between Bernie Sanders and Hillary Clinton – they claim that there was never a shut down of exit polling, and demand that anyone who remembers it produce evidence – a mostly reasonable claim, except that the digital records are gone because Internet articles are a dime a dozen and don’t stay online forever (contrary to popular opinion).  Even written records are sometimes intentionally destroyed, like when a treasure trove of 100 year old documents was recently found in my own state.  Whatever was in there, somebody did not want it to be shared.

I realize that human memory is imperfect, but relying on memory tokens rather than exercising our memories is not a healthy application of our intelligence.  With the vast amount of data and information available to us today, the ability to remember what has been seen and heard is more important now than ever before.  Book burning has never been so easy, and with the ability to literally rewrite history in the minds of the public, memory is more important than ever.

 

https://stumblingintheshadowsofgiants.wordpress.com/2013/12/21/160-year-old-documents-intentionally-destroyed-in-franklin-county-n-c/

Socrates quote/rant reference:  http://wondermark.com/socrates-vs-writing/

Salary Negotiations Are Not Wrong

I keep seeing places where people aren’t making enough money to pay essential bills, and in this specific instance I stumbled across it was a comment referring to a family in California of a full time teacher and a part time hair stylist with two children.  The mother was commenting that even with their income, they still qualify for MediCal (their state Medicaid program) and food stamps.

The wages in the entire country have dropped ridiculously too low, and one of the major problems is the way that pay works.  Teaching is a job that requires a four year degree and frequently requires long hours after the “normal” work day is done.  This is a career, not a job, and the skills and education required indicate it should pay substantially more than minimum wage.

A single income from a job that requires a college education should be able to support a spouse and a couple children in a decent life, even while paying off student loan debts. Nobody gets rich as a teacher, but no teacher should ever need (nor qualify) for any kind of government assistance while working.

The level of pay in this country has dropped too low, and for sick, twisted reasons salary negotiations have been demonized. We have to stop pretending that when people demand pay equal to what they are worth that they are doing something wrong.

 

(The comment was responding to the article linked below; this article is not directly related but provides extra context.)

https://www.commondreams.org/views/2018/03/04/im-coal-miners-daughter-and-west-virginia-teacher-heres-why-im-strike#

Student Loan Pains

I’ve been seeing some misinformation floating around about student loans, and it’s a serious problem.

There’s been a number of memes recently centered around the “surprise” of “having to pay back student loans”, but they’re really missing the point.  The surprise isn’t that you have to pay back student loans, but just how bad the interest rates are on them.

A typical student loan interest rate is around 7% for a federal loan.  These rates are set by congress, so they’re non-negotiable and generally not affected by credit.  Private loans are worse, but it’s the federal loans I’m focused on right now because those loans should not be a major problem.

Once you graduate, the interest alone is easily $300-$500 a month, and if you don’t land a job right away the interest gets capitalized and grows.  It’s not unrealistic to see your student loan debt double even while making payments.

There is an “income based repayment plan”, but that plan’s “relief” is deceptive.  The amount you are required to pay is fixed at roughly the percentage of your income that would be savings, investment, or disposable income.  When 10-20% of your income has to go toward student loan payments, but that doesn’t even cover the cost of the interest, there’s no realistic hope of ever paying them off.

The 10 year “student loan forgiveness” option also is not real.  The current administration has indicated that “nobody qualifies” for student loan forgiveness.  Even if somebody did manage to qualify, all of the loan money “forgiven” is considered income and gets taxed.  So if you borrow $30,000, it balloons into $100,000 and then gets “forgiven”, you still wind up with a big tax burden.

The worst of it is the fact that student loans are not taken out for “luxury spending”, but to pay for education in an attempt to become more employable.  That kind of investing ought to be encouraged, not penalized.

Nobody is “surprised” that they have to pay back their student loans.  They are “surprised” that a $30,000 loan consumes all of their money for their entire lifetime, because the vast majority of the money you wind up forced to pay is hidden in the interest rate.

Federal Bumper, Local Burden

One of the arguments I’ve seen repeatedly touted is that immigrants who work “pay taxes”, but it seems like often they are not paying the taxes used for running the cities.

Most local funding comes from property taxes.  If you own a home, a car, or pay the license for a business, the taxes you pay to the county goes toward your local schools and local services.  Most of the income taxes you pay out of your paycheck to Social Security, Medicare, etc., don’t generally go directly to the schools, they go to the federal government.  We often have a state tax as well, but that doesn’t have as much impact locally.

So yes, when immigrants have jobs here without owning property (as is often the case with undocumented immigration), they do pay some taxes, but which taxes they pay and which benefits they receive are not coming from the same pool taxes.  It creates a burden locally that needs to be balanced, but currently is not, even in the most ideal of scenarios.  When undocumented immigrants are working “under the table”, they don’t even pay federal taxes, and their boss doesn’t have to pay payroll tax.  (Basically, every paycheck gets taxed twice – once with payroll tax, which is like a sales tax your employer pays that you never see, and again in the form of income tax that the employee pays.)

I think one of the big problems with our conversation on immigration is missing this local effect.  Immigrant workers are great for the Federal government because they don’t qualify for Federal benefits, but they still (through children and other local services) cause a local tax burden without contributing through local taxes.  We need a system where they get to contribute to offset those additional costs, and it has to find its way into taxes somehow.

Political Silencing

There was a demonstration at Charlottesville, VA sometime recently, and it has brought out strong feelings from nearly everyone I have seen comment or write on it.

I am aware there were people who openly identify as white supremacists in attendance.  While I disagree with their defining viewpoints, I do not want to see their opportunity to be heard stifled any more than I would want to see any other non-violent or political gathering (including the Black Lives Matter events) shut down, even (and especially) if the people are voicing their anger or frustration.  The ability to speak and be heard is essential to our political system.

I understand there were both the originally planned protests, and counter-protests being held by opposing viewpoints.  I would not want to see their voices stifled either, although it does seem like having both groups within a small space without any civil controls in place would create a shouting match with both sides fighting to be heard, rather than a healthy, if lively, discussion of opposing views.  The only solution I know for that is hosting public discourse, such as is done in town halls.

I understand one of the counter protesters did die while in attendance.  I wouldn’t want to condemn anyone in advance of their fair trial on the basis of hearsay alone, no matter how convincing the version of the story I heard, so I’ll just add a link below about it.  I think that death is tragic and was needless.  I do not think using violence is an useful way to make a statement.

I am also concerned because of a certain amount of vigilantism I saw, which prompted me to write this article.  A person is deliberately looking up the information of people in attendance and doxxing them.  Doxxing is when you reveal private, protected information to the public, usually with the intention of causing them harm.  It seems at least one person has already lost his job (and not a prestigious job) as a result of his participation in the event.

This speaks to a bigger problem in our country right now, which is that the right to participate in political discourse is becoming a privilege, and not a right.  That privilege is being reserved to the wealthy and powerful, who do not need to fear retaliation for taking a political position or voicing an opinion.  Working people are not able to participate or even voice an opinion for fear of losing their livelihoods.

There is a lot of anger, frustration, and dissatisfaction in the country right now.  That is much of what got Obama elected, and it is what got Trump elected.  The status quo is not working for the average American, and in a democracy that is a problem.  I feel like a big part of Hillary’s problem is that her message seemed to be “Everything is fine, what are you talking about?”

When people fear retaliation, they do not go out and protest.  Frequently, merely expressing an opinion that is unpopular or out of line with the official company position can lose your job.  This stifles the essential open conversation that must take place for our democracy to work, especially since complex problem (such as those in finance or medicine) might only be fully understood by the people who work in those fields.  I understand dismissal over a viewpoint when it is done on the job or using company resources (as happened recently at Google), but when a person chooses to express a particular viewpoint as an individual without involving their place of work, it seems inappropriate that they fear retaliation in the workplace.

Even if such a person is wrong, there needs to be discussion of why they are wrong, and not simply their condemnation, elimination, and silence.  Public discourse cannot advance without having these discussions.  Debate is not just between the interlocutors, because everyone is listening.  That kind of important discussion, where error can be corrected, cannot happen if people fear expressing their views.  That is how incorrect ideas are rooted out.  Human psychology is an ancient thing, and we frequently stumble upon the same wrong answers our ancestors had to learn from.

It seems like the whole country is more interested in being angry and fighting itself than making any kind of real progress toward a solution.  We need to discuss the ideas, not try to hurt the person holding them.

 

http://www.newnownext.com/charlottesville-rally-yes-youre-racist-twitter/08/2017/?fb_ref=fbshare_web

http://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/charlottesville-rally-turns-deadly-one-killed-after-car-strikes-crowd-n792116

https://www.recode.net/2017/8/7/16110696/firing-google-ceo-employee-penned-controversial-memo-on-women-has-violated-its-code-of-conduct

No Sympathy for Some Workers

I am a little frustrated with some of the things that I’ve been seeing and hearing. I’ve seen our current President’s support of coal, and my first instinct (as someone who is concerned about climate change and sustainability in general) was to be opposed to “reviving the coal industry”.
But the important thing to remember is that “saving an industry” isn’t really about the industry, at least not from the citizen’s perspective. It’s about saving the lives and/or livelihoods of our fellow citizens.
When the previous President supported the auto industry, a major regional industry with a large impact on the economy, any detraction from that was mostly booed as missing the big picture and being insensitive.
I don’t believe coal is the fuel of the future, but it is widely used now as a reliable source of energy across the country, and coal pensions are depended on in some of the poorest states in the country.  It is a job many people have worked for many years, and the disappearance of those jobs is just as serious economically as the departure of manufacturing to other parts of the country.
I think the problem is that the narratives in the stories I’m reading are being dictated by people who aren’t any more sensitive to the issues involved, regardless of their stated opinions. The big difference is who they happen to know and are friends with. For reasons similar to why so many people were sympathetic to an auto-maker bail out, we should probably be at least a little sympathetic to the fears of coal miners and the impact on their lives.  I am not a fan or supporter of bail outs in general, but I’d like to see more sympathy for people who spent their lives working an honest job who are staring down a problem we have seen and addressed before who are looking for a similar solution.

If the government is going to burden and destroy an industry in a state, even one destructive and unhealthy like coal, it needs to take action and provide relief for the economic damage it has done in service to the “greater good” for the citizens who suffer as a result.  I don’t think the businesses need to be bailed out, but the workers shouldn’t be forced to suffer for policy decisions.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/02/09/a-huge-coal-miners-pension-plan-is-on-the-brink-of-failure-one-senator-is-blocking-a-fix/?utm_term=.6461b42ead40

Already Calling for Surrender

I think there’s a major problem with one of the major political parties in the United States.  I’ve been seeing a meme making the rounds on Facebook that asks “independents” et al. to “Get over it” and plan to vote for Democrats in the 2018 and 2020 elections.

Really?  You haven’t even nominated a candidate yet, but you already want people to vote for them?  You don’t have issues or policy, but think that the rallying cry of “This country is a dumpster fire” is going to win votes?  It will probably get some, but not enough.

I do my best to vote for what I think is the best direction to go.  I distinctly remember wandering through the brickyard (a courtyard, but covered with bricks), where the campus Democrats had set up a tent and were trying to encourage people to vote for some candidate (I forget who).  When I approached them, thinking they would be the best place to get their viewpoint, I asked “Why do you think I should vote Democrat?”

The student attendant responded “Well, look around.  Do you want four more years like we had under Republican leadership?”

I responded, “I’ve already decided I’m not voting Republican, but I don’t know who I’m voting for yet.  I don’t vote against candidates, I vote for them.  Why should I vote for yours instead of voting third party?”  At that point, my fellow student seemed to be at a loss for words, and stammered out some talking points verbatim from the brochures they were passing out.  It wasn’t terribly convincing.

That seems to be the problem with the Democratic party, that they think all they have to do is not be Republicans and that will be good enough.  There’s not a clear vision, beyond having everyone unified under their command.  Democrats seem more intent on just being part of a social club rather than having a vision for where they are trying to take the country, or some idea of how to get there.  It certainly explains why they are more likely to inflict emotional pain by calling people racist or sexist or Islamophobic, rather than making logical or moral arguments about why any of those things are wrong.

If Democrats (or any other candidates) want to win votes, they need to focus on problems and solutions.  I’d like to see our political discussion get back to focusing on real problems and their potential solutions, and get rid of the name-calling.  Insulting me will never win my vote.

Applauding Their Own Demise

I have seen a bit of a problem that I don’t understand completely.  I see people who are in their mid to late 50’s and even early 60’s who take a hard line in opposition to Medicaid, and it baffles me.

Now, I understand their firm belief that “people should pay their own way” and “if you can’t afford it you shouldn’t have it”, but the medical conditions people suffer from are usually the reason that they are not more productive and can’t work.  Often, the beneficiaries of Medicaid are the elderly and children, for whom the opportunity to work has not yet arrived or has already passed.  There are only so many jobs that people can continue to work in their old age, and for many people working is no longer an option.

Cutting Medicaid to children seems to be saying “Your potential is not worth the investment.”  Cutting Medicaid to the elderly is basically saying “You have outlived your usefulness, therefore it is time for you to die.”

What bothers me so much is seeing people who are likely to be on Medicaid in the near future cheering its demise.  That is some dedication to principle, to applaud the end of a program you will shortly be dependent on (or die).  Either that, or they have no foresight.

Yes, I Work for Money

One of the major problems in our American culture today is that even though every job is literally “working for the money”, there’s an awful lot of social judgment put on people for looking at and negotiating the financial aspect of their work.  That seems wrong, especially in a nominally capitalist system.

From Hollywood culture, there’s a lot of push to demonize people who “do things for money”, as if life should be spent doing only those things that bring you innate pleasure.  I am not oblivious of the irony of producing a for-profit movie whose message is that money does or should not matter, but it seems that many people take that message and try to apply it to a world that is not a contrived fiction.  This even trickles down and gets misrepresented as if being rich itself were some kind of crime.

Then there’s the problem of negotiating pay for work.  I realize that asking about money upfront is ill-informed (how could you know how much to ask for before you know what the job is?), but people need to be comfortable talking about money, and doing it as if their lives depend on it (because it does).  The fact that unpaid internships, volunteer positions, and actual jobs are sometimes advertised in the same spaces does not help anything, since there’s no way you can accept a position if you were looking for a job but discover it is actually completely unpaid.  Unrealistic employer expectations (that you will relocate and live at your own expense while working for their benefit) have not helped this process.

All this creates an atmosphere where talking about money is taboo, but it needs to be discussed openly because money and financial security are important.  Even if you don’t want to be wealthy, nobody wants to be poor.    I have been extremely frustrated by persons who advertise for unpaid internships on job boards who mislead me into thinking we are discussing an actual paid position when they have no intention of paying anyone to work, and equally frustrated by peers who literally told me “never, ever ask what a job pays; just take it and be happy to work.”  This is not a healthy for capitalism, and it undermines basic workers’ rights.

Making sure you aren’t being taking advantage of in the job-market requires knowledge and some negotiation skills, but it also requires that we remove that taboo on money.  Yes, the wealthy would rather we not discuss money and pretend it’s all about our moral character and willingness to work, but it’s not.  If you don’t negotiate for your pay, you let the employer unilaterally set your pay rate.  Could anyone realistically be a “pay what you want” professional worker, in any field?

And yes, sometimes that means taking a crappy job you don’t want just to get money because it’s all people are willing to pay you to do.  There shouldn’t be a great deal of shame in doing what needs to be done.  The problem is that not only has the system found a way to rip people off, it also stigmatizes them for being robbed of their just wages by the very same people who are also getting screwed over.  This is a completely backwards part of our culture, and it needs to be fixed.